dear friends of waiting adoptive moms: some things to know (also, we’re sorry)

This is an awesome post about the thoughts and feelings that waiting adoptive moms have. It is focused mainly on international adoption but it totally applies to any type of adoption!

#8 is the fear we never talk about.
#12 – Looks brave on the outside, but that’s about it for me. Lately I don’t feel brave. It’s hard when all you can do it to get through the day not falling apart because your kids aren’t home yet.

wonderment, etc

1. Your friend is not crazy. (She is adopting.)

There is, I will admit, a fine line between those two but still it’s good to remember. The international adoption of a child requires enough paperwork to kill a small forest. And more governmental red tape than you can believe. Imagine your longest, most frustrating trip to the DMV. Now quadruple that, add in twelve more governmental agencies in two countries, and remember it’s not a driver’s license you’re waiting for but the final piece of paper that says this family you’re creating can finally, finally be together. Yeah. Not crazy. But close.

2. She loves a child she’s never met.

It’s possible. So possible. It’s irrational and crazy but it’s reality. Does she love them like she will once she gets to know them? No. But she loves them. She wakes up loving them and goes to sleep loving them…

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2 thoughts on “dear friends of waiting adoptive moms: some things to know (also, we’re sorry)

  1. I don’t think a non brave person could do what you’re doing. I think that being brave is having your heart broke and then opening it up again. I don’t know you and I’ve only read your last few posts, but in my book you’re brave.

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