As many of you know, Joel and I had an interview with 2 social workers for the sibling group of 3 on Tuesday afternoon. It was an eventful day to say the least. On the way to the interview, Joel and I heard a loud noise while speeding (we were late) up the interstate. At first we thought it was a tire that blew out but if it was we figured it would have landed us in the ditch that was the case. So, like I do, we kept going. God totally protected us because as we got to the interview and parked out car, we noticed that we had a totally flat, blown out tire. We ignored the car and went to the interview, and decided to deal with the car stuff later.
The interview went incredibly well! We learned a ton of information about the 3 kids, some great info that brightened our hearts, some heartbreaking information that no kids should ever have to endure, and some very real information about what their behaviors and life would look like.
I have to be honest, some of the things I heard about what these children had gone through seemed to rip my heart out, stomp on it, put it in a blender, and throw it to the sharks. It was so hard to sit there, across the table from the social workers who were telling me about these horrors that these children that might be mine went through without breaking down into tears. Still when I think about what they had to go through to get to the place where we were being interviewed to be their parents it is hard not to just crawl under the covers and not come out until it stops hurting.
The workers asked us a ton of questions, most of the “do you understand that whatever behaviors arise is not because they are bad kids?”, and “are you in it forever?” variety. They went over some information about the TPR trial that is coming up next week, and how they want to move fairly quickly once a family is chosen. They asked us if we would be interested in a “legal risk placement”. This basically means that if chosen, we would move forward with the transition before the judge makes an official decision about TPR. Social workers really only do this when they are very confident in the TPR decision.
The meeting ended with both sides leaving to decide if each side wants to move forward. Joel and I first dealt with the flat tire (a 2 hour ordeal with a flat bed tow truck), then got home and had some in depth conversations about what we had heard. Some of the conversation included: “3 kids, holy buckets, can we do that?”, “I know how to be a therapist, but I got nothing on putting a kid to bed!”, and other such informative questions.
After our conversations, Joel and I really felt a peace about moving forward with this sibling group. Yes, they have some challenges, and yes the transition will be difficult. Things may be hard, other things may be easy, but everything we heard about these 3 kids seem like they would fit into our family great!!!
We let our worker know that we wanted to move forward and she got in touch with the kids’ workers. The email we got back made my heart smile. Our worker let us know that both workers consider Joel and I a strong option. They are interviewing one other family and will get in touch with us later next week.
More waiting, but whatever God has planned is what we want to happen!